One of the biggest questions we get asked as wedding planners is about invitation wording. What is the etiquette? Whose name goes first? Both of our parents are hosting the wedding, how do we word it? What information should be added into the invitation? What information should we omit? How do we handle inviting only certain people to a Welcome Reception? And the list goes on… We have written this blog post to help answer some of those questions.
Below we have written out some examples for each type of scenario for who is “hosting” the wedding. When we say hosting, we are meaning who is paying for the wedding. In the “old” days of planning a wedding, the bride’s family was mostly responsible to pay for the entire wedding. The groom’s family would often host the rehearsal dinner. These days, we often find the wedding being split by both families. Often a 50/50 split, or maybe a 60/40 split between families. Or even the couple is paying for their own wedding. But whoever is paying for your wedding, it is always important to know proper etiquette for your wedding invitations.
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Traditionally, the bride always precedes the groom. For a formal invite, we would always suggest the bride to be referred to by her first and middle names. The groom is referred by his full name and title (optional).
Do not put your RSVP information on the invite. Do not add your registry on the invite. Make separate insert cards for these. We will discuss these below.
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